― 5. What part of self harm do you dislike the most? the shame and embarrassment i feel is the thing that i hate the most about it. always trying to cover up the scars so people don't ask questions. and knowing that my husband would be disappointed in me. i remember 3 years ago when i had started to cut again i had just gotten out of the psych ward and my mom took me for a pedicure and i had been cutting on my ankle and calf, the cuts were still very fresh and the lady giving me the pedicure [...].