― If a child is given love, he becomes loving ... If he's helped when he needs help, he becomes helpful. And if he has been truly valued at home ... he grows up secure enough to look beyond himself to the welfare of others. ~ DR. JOYCE BROTHERS ∙ I've felt compelled to write a letter to my children, an apology letter. On the whole I know I've been a fairly decent mother but I've not been spectacular. ∙ I have a deficiency when it comes to giving my inner self to them, I love them [...].