― We didn't save you a seat. ∙ And we didn't have to wait for you to rush in at the last minute because you couldn't get away from work on time, or because you left the bouquet of roses in the fridge and had to rush back home to get them. ∙ That was at the last graduation ceremony, for your first daughter. ∙ You weren't there being entertained by your grandchildren -- four of them now, each one cuter than the other. ∙ You weren't there to snort with me over the [...].