― WHY DOES IT HURT SO BAD?! ∙ Why do we ignore it when people do some things to us but get so upset when our spouses do the same things? Do we expect so much from them; expect them to know us enough to know that that would hurt us or what?!Maybe you are not guilty of this but I am. I easily ignore and make excuses for people when they do something I don’t like, but when my husband does the same thing I allow it to hurt me, note that I said allow. Several things He has asked me why this is [...].