― Question by katbaj: how can i cope with aging ill health mother? i live with my aging ill health mother. mother & i have a stormy history, i am only child so no siblings for assistance. i cannot bring myself to provide any compassion to her. i struggle with doing the right thing and strong feelings of inability to comfort. HELP! Best answer: Answer by mmmckinnCan I say something? When you were born, your mother took care of you. She never asked you anything, she never gave you.... Click [...].