― We spend our lives doing things for others. If we put ourselves and our needs first, we seem to be programmed to feel guilty or badly about it, especially in regard to our family. ∙ There are times though when we need to put ourselves first. ∙ A mother who is at the verge of breaking down is no good to anyone if she doesn’t take some time for herself and her needs. ∙ A person who doesn’t learn to say no and is overwhelmed with everyone’s requests is doing [...].