― Well, you already know what used to be some of my deepest and darkest secrets. By sharing them with you, I am letting go of my shame. They also can't be used as weapons against me since I've already put them out there. That's putting my secrets into the light. Now, the question is, “How did I manage to find a way to lighten up myself?” ∙ That's a good question! I've already talked about taking a self-inventory. That's the fourth step in a twelve-step program - “We took a searching and [...].