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Bitter or Sweet? or Bittersweet?
Maryjoymella says 891 days ago
I had a boyfriend and we lasted for almost 3 years. We had fruitful relationship since we celebrated our 2nd anniversary but unfortunately, we just broke up last month. It was really hard on me to just give up everything but its him who initiated the partition. Being a girl, I think it was a total 'shame-on-me' thing because I really loved him so much and I just can't understand why he'd fell out of love so soon. We were high school sweethearts. When we graduated secondary level, we had hard time seeing each other because we didn't go to same university by despite that, we still love each other. I just don't get why guys are very inconsiderate about what the girls feel. I must admit that I'm still hoping that someday he'll want me back. At this moment, I'm still in my chaotic sentiment, my mind tells me to let him go but my heart says that there's still room for him in here, but I don't want to get hurt, AGAIN. Should I be bitter or still sweet to him? or bittersweet?
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Subhabrata Ray says 891 days ago
I think you should talk to a friend at a faraway place which will turn your mind from that bitter incident. Think yourself superior to him and forgive him for his misdeeds. Just think he no longer exists.
Subhabrata Ray says 891 days ago
I think you should talk to a friend at a faraway place which will turn your mind from that bitter incident. Think yourself superior to him and forgive him for his misdeeds. Just think he no longer exists.
Maryjoymella says 891 days ago
I think it's a hard thing to do, to think that he no longer exists 'cause we were once friends. have you experienced falling in love?
Beanizer says 888 days ago
hi..i may nt knw d details of ur luv s2ry..but i cn relate 2 wat u feel..der must b a deepr reason y he let u go..mving on s nt dt easy, it takes months and mayb evn yrs..d tym of mving on depeds on d value u giv 2 urself-ds s a realization..wen we comit rselvs n a serious realtionshp, u r giving a part of u, d risk s- wen u hv gven mor dn u shud..i tel u, n my case of moving on, the hardest part s d finding of my own self, i think and question evrythin..but den i grew tired of denying d fact dt i cn stl liv w/o dt spexal sum1..so i say 2 u now, forgive urself 1st..and luv urself mor, so wen u meet d ryt man, u cn definitely love him w/o being haunted by ur sad chapters..
Wytwitch says 887 days ago
Hi gurl, dis had happened 2me also..iv had a long term bf since HS, but just wen i graduated college i found out he had a new gf..we were apart also, it was hard, i took risk, iv been a loyal gf & den i kept askin myself y he did it 2me! i want u 2 know dat, moving on wil take tym..& d love wil always stay, its just dat in tym ul learn nt showing it 2 him..lyk beanizer said, love urself 1st & learn 2 forgive.. show him dat u r better widout him, i know it wud be hard but b strong..i know how u feel..and maybe focus ur attention to oder things, make urself busy & always feel beautiful..
Wytwitch says 887 days ago
i hav a tip 4 u 2 easily move on: think of d bad things he have done 2u wenevr u feel alone or u miss him, think of all negative things about him, dont think of da gud times 2geder(i know its hard but at least try), think dat he had hurt u & he dont deserve the kind of love dat u can giv..dats wat i did, i gave myself lots of reasons y i shud stop loving dat guy..so truly helps me, hope it wil also help u..wish u good luck & watever happens, follow wat u think is ryt 4u! b strong gurl, and pray..im sure ders sum1 out der hu is startin 2 luk 4u, & dat is d guy whom u r destined & whom deserves da kind of love u can give! hugggggs :)
Maryjoymella says 886 days ago
Before, i wished he'll want me back, but now, I wish I'll get rid of this intense feelings for him, I just want to enjoy being single, having the chance to be with anyone freely, with no commitment. You know what guys, I have to admit that I'm still, somehow, in love with him. Its just so hard to forget about him and to think of all the negative things he did 'cause out of the 100 things he did, I can tell that only 20 of them are negative, that's why I had a real hard time letting him go. But now I can say that..
Love is the most stupid thing to be in.
I may sound bitter but that's what love brought me, STUPIDITY. Hahaha..
Love is the most stupid thing to be in.
I may sound bitter but that's what love brought me, STUPIDITY. Hahaha..
Beanizer says 882 days ago
i undrstnd wat u feel @ ds momnt..but it is certainly NOT a s2pid thing 2 enter 2..we cn nver xperience love JUZ wd hugs & gud ol memoriz..sbi nga nila--HINDI MALI ANG MAGMAHAL NG SOBRA, HINDI MALI ANG MGBIGAY NG LAHAT NG PAGMAMAHAL..ANG PGKKMALI LNG NATIN AY UNG TAONG MINAHAL NATIN..
juz wat iv sed wd witchy b4, IF U HAV BEEN HAPPY WD D WRONG MAN, HOW MUCH MORE IF THE RIGHT ONE CUMS ALONG, ryt??
juz wat iv sed wd witchy b4, IF U HAV BEEN HAPPY WD D WRONG MAN, HOW MUCH MORE IF THE RIGHT ONE CUMS ALONG, ryt??
Maryjoymella says 881 days ago
well, you are all right. there's just things I hardly understand. we've been friends before and what I'm hoping for is we'll end up being friends, again. but he's very rude to me, like he wants to shout at me everytime we'll chat. he didn't even care to greet me this holiday, soooo bitter. i just can't understand why he has to be like that despite everything I owed him. :(
Beanizer says 881 days ago
u must hv done sumthin dt bad(?)..u must hav hurt him unconsciously..hw dd u broke up? m quite curious wt hppend..f he dsnt want u bak, let him go..f dt wat makes him happy, lt him be..bt f he truly luvs u, he wil realize dt sooner..dt hapend 2 me..and it did me gud..do luv ursef above anyone else..hav urslf d respect u deserv and u'l b happy..soon evrythin wil turn out finer dn xpctd:)
Maryjoymella says 880 days ago
somthing bad? I LOVED HIM SO MUCH and i think that's too bad. the break up? i never saw it coming... the day before it happened, we're still happy wth each other, and so full of love. it so unexpected and that's painful. i just want to get rid of these feelings for him ASAP. i know i'll get over him pero ang hirap tlga , sana there's easier way of moving forward.
Wytwitch says 880 days ago
u know wats the easiest way to at least lessen wat u feel? stop showing u love him, keep it all inside. i know it really is hard! but soon as u learn living a life widout him and then u look back ul just gonna smile and say, wow ive moved on! although not totally, but at least u can now live ur own life and be happy. u deserve to be happy girl! everyone does...wish u good luck, i know its really hard i know the feeling talaga, super duper nkkrelate ako! hehehe..basta, kaya mo yan!
Beanizer says 880 days ago
aba c witchy oh nkrelate tlga..heheh..oh wg ng mg.emo jan..
miles, he broke up wd u w/o any rison?-dt's weird..bt den, f he dd luv u as much as u luvd him, he wil nt throw ur 3 yrs 2 nothin
miles, he broke up wd u w/o any rison?-dt's weird..bt den, f he dd luv u as much as u luvd him, he wil nt throw ur 3 yrs 2 nothin
Gurpreet says 880 days ago
Hey ,We are all the same,we all go through situations that seems to be eating us up from inside,you must be feeling so lonely at times but believe me there are so many people like you out there ..the day you realize this your true nature will persist ,bitter or sweet ,its not what he did,its what you will do to your life...take care
Gurpreet says 880 days ago
Hey ,We are all the same,we all go through situations that seems to be eating us up from inside,you must be feeling so lonely at times but believe me there are so many people like you out there ..the day you realize this your true nature will persist ,bitter or sweet ,its not what he did,its what you will do to your life...take care
Gurpreet says 880 days ago
Hey ,We are all the same,we all go through situations that seems to be eating us up from inside,you must be feeling so lonely at times but believe me there are so many people like you out there ..the day you realize this your true nature will persist ,bitter or sweet ,its not what he did,its what you will do to your life...take care
Maryjoymella says 879 days ago
Guys, I'm getting better (or bitter?) each day. :)) haha, well I know someday i'll forget about US but not him. I lost someone special (him) but I hope that would lead to gaining a friend (him, again). Argh. I'm getting lost. :D
Beanizer says 879 days ago
dnt think of it 2 hard miles..u wil miss d beautiful details of ur life f u make him ur world.. i knw it's really hard 2 4get bt f u reli wnt 2 help urslf, u must keep n mind dt he's not worth ur tears..f he dsnt evn cre 2 show ur worth, den y d hell u wud value him..ds s life..it's nt a crime 2 luv urself more..bsyds, f u think u hv gven mor dn enuf, den prob ya na un..he dsnt desrv ur luv, nor u desrv him..sumtyms we must feel biternes 4 us 2 muv on, bt it dsnt follow dt u'r not capable of forgiving:)
Maryjoymella says 879 days ago
Haha, you know what friend, last time it was the hardest, yesterday it was harder, today, it's just 'hard', then maybe tomorrow it'll be 'easy' :). the complications start to fade and I feel beautiful than ever. :D haha, Thank God, I found the drive to post my story and the replies were so helpful. I think naman we all enjoyed talking about stuffs like this, msarap kasi pagusapan and at the same time I learned a lot, lots of things tlaga. And its good to be single. :D And I'm enjoying flinging and flirting around hahaha, bsta ayko na ng commitments :D
Beanizer says 879 days ago
hahha..wel, it's glad 2 knw u' happy--though i doubt it (wahaha)..seriously, it's true, it's gr8 2 b single..and nt TAKEN..not committed..no limitations..totally FREE!!!!!!..hehheheh..yaan m cla..kng yaw nla ed d wag..cla rin ang nwalan!..kta nhahawa aqs bitterness mo! heheh
Maryjoymella says 879 days ago
well I doubt it, too. :D but at least I feel better now. I don't see this as 'bitterness', this is what it takes to be free :)) haha
Beanizer says 879 days ago
bt naulit reply q?...
no, n bcoz of biternes, ng-argue kc..yaw dw nya ng sweets..my diabetes, kya binaril..hehehe
no, n bcoz of biternes, ng-argue kc..yaw dw nya ng sweets..my diabetes, kya binaril..hehehe
Maryjoymella says 879 days ago
:D kung mdali ang fake smiles, mhrap ang fake laugh, dko lm kung tatawa ba ako or what? :D
Beanizer says 879 days ago
eh gnun tlga pg galing s mental..confused..kya cguro ngbrk kau ng honey mo kc d m lam nrrmdmn mo..peace!
Maryjoymella says 879 days ago
awwtss. :D haha, I'm glad he left me, well he doesn't deserve me at all. Huwaw, can't believe ganito na ako mgsalita :D
Beanizer says 879 days ago
oo nga..khapon lng pa-emo2 ka..ngaun prang sinapian na..hehe..wel, dt's gud..u'r learning (?)..post more n ur blog :)
Maryjoymella says 876 days ago
haha, medyo natuwa ako sa replies sa talk kya dto ako napa-focus. I'll be posting happy blogs cguro next week haha, Im still fixing some things and nurturing my FB account :)
Jaylaine says 879 days ago
whoa!
that situation is kinda hard
well if you love him then just be patient cguro if that person is your destiny then it will gonna go back to you soon
yun nga lang just avoid being desperate..
thats justa challenge on you and if you will pass that problem you will gonna work it out on your next relationship
that situation is kinda hard
well if you love him then just be patient cguro if that person is your destiny then it will gonna go back to you soon
yun nga lang just avoid being desperate..
thats justa challenge on you and if you will pass that problem you will gonna work it out on your next relationship
Maryjoymella says 876 days ago
next relationship? I don't think I'll be open for another. Msarap maging single :) haha thanks for the reply !! hope we can be friends :)
Angelina says 874 days ago
My grandmother used to tell me to love love. I never knew what that meant until my boyfriend and I broke up. We dated the entire time I attended high school. We grew up together and this is where the attachment came from. Love can morph. My ex and I became friends and it took me a while to build that wall so that friends did not become friends with benefits. But I knew that I deserved more than a temporary fix...so to speak. There is nothing wrong with loving somebody. Do not betray your heart- but know your mind.
Maryjoymella says 874 days ago
Thank you Angelina. That's what I want to happen now, we become friends but not friends with benefits. We knew each other since high school and that's where extreme bonding and attachment existed. Yes, you're right, there's nothing wrong with loving somebody, but I think its better to love back or give nothing in return than to be bitter to that someone who loves you.
Ugh, I told myself I better go on.
Ugh, I told myself I better go on.
Gurpreet says 874 days ago
i had crush 5 years ago,when i started going to university,4 years i kept it in,for i knew its not right and and i did not had a chance,,ethnic ,religious or whatever reasons,,end of the days and i did purposed ,and as i imagined once,got refused in 10 days,and she studies in america now,,,after 5 years i still think i have a crush on her,,,holly i will go to america to talk to her...who cares if she refuses again....i did my part and i ll keep doing
Maryjoymella says 874 days ago
crush? i think you're beyond that. you love her, right? just go on with what you think will make you happy, if youre happy getting rejected, then go on, better if not. im telling you, you'll get tired someday.
+1
Gurpreet says 874 days ago
when i will get tired i might have reached some far end of my own destiny,from where returning would be of a little use,,,,aargghh,,what i am saying...
Maryjoymella says 874 days ago
I don't know when. We all don't know. It'll just happen unexpectedly. Just like mine.
Gurpreet says 874 days ago
what i meant was ,,that time is most valuable thing ,,,we loose it and it looses us,,,and you see it moving away from you...its quiet painful,,,,,i do believe that there are far more important things in life than just sitting back and mourning .,,either we do not walk a way,,if we walk that way ,then finish it off...
Maryjoymella says 874 days ago
moving on is not like sitting back and mourning, definitely not. you think its the most valuable thing making it up to her and still get rejected? don't you think it's a waste of so much time?
Gurpreet says 874 days ago
oh thats was just an example...you know the answer right,,,when i said i will reach there where return is not possible,,,,dont regret ,dont repent,,do good ,feel good
Maryjoymella says 874 days ago
I praise you. :D for the ability to manage pain of getting rejected. I just don't know how it is possible to feel good despite of getting refused. you've got so much optimism, huh? :D
Gurpreet says 874 days ago
if you want to write your pain on a sheet of paper ,and make others believe in it,you ought to have some sort of pain i guess..lol ,,i dont know what it means but we are still all the same,some get used to it ,others dont,some quit and some look eye to eye and tell pain ,,hey what else can you do to me ,,(i need a sleep nothing else :p)
Maryjoymella says 874 days ago
yah you're right we are all the same, we all feel pain but the only thing that differs is how each of us handles pain. the worst part is before it gets any better, its like we're heading on the edge of the cliff, but in the end we'll realize, we're better when we hit the bottom.
ugh, i dont know what trying to say, i think i need some sleep, too. LOL
ugh, i dont know what trying to say, i think i need some sleep, too. LOL
Maryjoymella says 874 days ago
i think i've written the lyrics of a song, i just don't know what song LOL
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