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Dear Bloggers, kindly teach me how to NOT be provocative.

Phamiel on Help, Spiritual, Healing

I am a nice person. I am an honest person. My problem is, my sharp tongue scare away the people before than can utter, "Charming!"

Some people who persist and embraced my unattractive attributes, became my long term friends but they are alarmingly few. Those who despised my frank and brutal honesty have labelled me a foe and they continually spread bad rumors, which lost me a number of important contact.

How do I practice being less provocative? How do I approach people with sweet intoxication? How do I prevent sour apples from competing with me? I mean, I don't have any intention of competing. These sour apples just seem to find a reason that they have to compete with me. It's crazy!

Please help me?

6 Replies

Moonomo ∙ 5 Jan, 11

1 rule: Don't expect everything or everyone is good- therefor you don't have to do the "judgment" my telling the truth on the face. ;)

AnaLuiza ∙ 18 Oct, 11

I can relate. People don't want to listen to what we really think. They prefer to be lied than listening to what we "really" think about them
Sometimes lots of people think the same about a person.
Example:
Christine was very friendly but when she started to date John she changed.

Everybody notices it and even say to each other that Christine is unbearable now and the nice girl she once was disappeared.

Everybody agree!

BUT: people say nothing to her.
nothing...

I bet you are the one who will say:

"Come on Christine! What happened to you that you are changed and is not even saying "Hello" to people anymore?"

Christine: "Me?"

"Yes. You changed since you started dating John and turned into a complete different person. Everybody says so.

According to my experience those who think the same and agreed will.... say nothing or will try to change the subject.

You will be the troublemaker.

Is it the problem you refer to?

if so... you have to think if it is worthy to be the only one who speaks what everybody think.

Biertjuh ∙ 18 Oct, 11

Just be yourself. Nothing much to say on that. Besides... you would be pretending to be someone that you are not. You won't be able to keep that up for a very long time.

// Jan

Mayura ∙ 18 Oct, 11

Do the Right Thing N As Biertjuh said, Be Yourself. Let Others Despise Your Frank and Brutal Honesty. Who Cares It? Show Who You Are, Do What You Do. Have Faith on You N Count On It. It's Your Personality. Bad People Out There, But You Don't Wanna Follow Them or Add Em to Your Friend List to Make Em Happy. Isn't It? Someday They Will Get to You N Apologize...

Drive Your Life, But Don't Let Others to Drive You...

Cheers...

Eddie ∙ 18 Oct, 11

don't change the way you handle people because if you start being a passive person when you know you are not then you are FAKE!! and if your personality run people then they never knew you anyway be your self!pastorsvoice

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