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I Love her, but shes my bestfriend. Love or Friendship?
GitaristAko says 860 days ago
I Love her more than a bestfriend. but im afraid to show her that.. what should i treasure most? my love for him, or our friendship?
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Beanizer says 860 days ago
that's sad..don't worry gurpreet..you'll find the perfect match soon..have faith:)
Gurpreet says 860 days ago
aaa..i am not leaving her for any one.till i talk to her again,,lol,,,anyway thanks friend
Pardha says 860 days ago
hel man ..how do we know if she fels da same way .. i'm having a hard time figuring it out !! :(
GitaristAko says 860 days ago
yeah..its hard to predct how she feels towards me.. if i try and she dosnt feel the same thing, maybe our friendship will end..
Shaine says 859 days ago
why think the end of the story without writing the first chapter? weh hehe, just using my writer instincts,. girls are not like that we are flattered when guys admires us as we are. ( i believe she is just being so "maarte" if she will end ur frendship). tell her it wud be fine if she dont feel d same ur prohibiting urself from feeling the best feeling of all if ul imprison urself to those thinkng. say it aloud. ur a guy aren't u? but before u do so, make sure rflect many times if u rily LOVE her or just LIKE her. it is 2 diff. things.
GitaristAko says 858 days ago
Thnks Shaine... Maybe Ill Just Watch "Pano na kaya".. Cguro pareho kmi ng situation.. =)
GitaristAko says 858 days ago
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Healthit Up For YOU says 697 days ago
Let her know.... this is just what she may be long waiting for :) I married my best friend, and I tell you this is the most wonderful relationship.... because you may hurt you mate, but when you marry your best friend it is different... because you not only hurt your love, but your best friend as well (double whammy). Therefore you try harder, and the relationship endures forever....
Sudheera says 697 days ago
hmmm... u can love ur bestfriend bt... friend turn lover!! so friendship is friendship nd love z love both cant b one!!!
Dyane says 552 days ago
I had a friend once in my high school!He wasn't a boy frnd or just a frnd!We were just xerox copy of me in thoughts &every words!When anyone asked him,who am I to him?He used to tell,complicated..she is more than a frnd & greater than a lover!
Well you are reminding me of him!We broke up?No!R we separated?No!But we didn't saw each other for 17 years!But he is still on my mind!As the bestest frnd of the world!Time changes a person,I'm scared!I don't want to see him changed!So I don't want to meet him!But I miss that boy!All the memories with him still makes me ponder& laugh!Last time we met had a fight!I was hurt& told him that after 50 years we are gonna meet!He refused,but agreed to see me after 25years!God knows when will we two meet?
I miss my frnd!He used to know me more than anyone ever did!Even when I used to get mad at him!Yes I'm stubborn type&sometimes too emotional! Everything is too much! Was that love?I'm still not sure!Gals are sometime just stay stupid forever!
Are you absolutely sure?Then what are you doing here?Why are you reading my boring writings ?Just wear the best dress from your closet ,buy a flower and tell her....Your love will not wait for you forever!Best of luck!
Well you are reminding me of him!We broke up?No!R we separated?No!But we didn't saw each other for 17 years!But he is still on my mind!As the bestest frnd of the world!Time changes a person,I'm scared!I don't want to see him changed!So I don't want to meet him!But I miss that boy!All the memories with him still makes me ponder& laugh!Last time we met had a fight!I was hurt& told him that after 50 years we are gonna meet!He refused,but agreed to see me after 25years!God knows when will we two meet?
I miss my frnd!He used to know me more than anyone ever did!Even when I used to get mad at him!Yes I'm stubborn type&sometimes too emotional! Everything is too much! Was that love?I'm still not sure!Gals are sometime just stay stupid forever!
Are you absolutely sure?Then what are you doing here?Why are you reading my boring writings ?Just wear the best dress from your closet ,buy a flower and tell her....Your love will not wait for you forever!Best of luck!
Sudhir Chauhan says 552 days ago
i do not think that this situation should be made so complicated. try to find out what she wants, and if she is not tht ok, then friendship is best and if their is some spark ont he otherside also - talk to her and propose.
Balqis says 552 days ago
If you have the gut to tell her, then it'll be love. If not, you remain as best friends, so friendship will it be. How long can you hold it when love's boiling inside you? I know it's a difficult situation to tell her cos she's your best friend. The choice is yours! :)
Lovely says 552 days ago
If she is your best friend, you should never keep anything in your mind hidden from her. Just tell it to her...not like proposing her... like just telling some of your normal feelings... If she feels the same for you, then both of you are blessed... If she doesn't, then she will surely understand your feelings as a best friend's feelings....
Toofan Singh says 552 days ago
frnd take care bcz If c treats u just as a frnd then its possible that c may reject ur frnship also its my view its not neccessry that there wil b d same.may b c like ur propsl.
Darren Francis says 536 days ago
Tough call. Follow your heart. I believe, that special someone should be both your best friend and soul mate.
Ane Fallarme says 535 days ago
Don't you know that the best relationships are based on friendships? I married my best friend and 10 years later, we're still the best of friends. :)
Andreadawn says 530 days ago
see if they like yu back have a friend or someone talk to her if they like yu then see where it goes if not then yu still have`em as a friend
A P Geofrey says 530 days ago
well the decision is yours if you ant to go fro friendship then go for it but if you want to go for love then go for love SIMPLE!!!!
Music Nerdery says 530 days ago
the 8 year long relationship that i am in now started from a friendship that began when we were 9 years old. i do believe our friendship before is why we are together now.
heres the thing about entering a relationship with ANYONE, especially your best friend. you need to be 100% clear about anything and EVERYTHING that you want out of this life, and your relationship. realize that people and things DO CHANGE over time. and understand that ALL relationships take REAL HARD WORK and commitment to being with each other. and honesty. 100000% honesty at all times.
hope that helps.
heres the thing about entering a relationship with ANYONE, especially your best friend. you need to be 100% clear about anything and EVERYTHING that you want out of this life, and your relationship. realize that people and things DO CHANGE over time. and understand that ALL relationships take REAL HARD WORK and commitment to being with each other. and honesty. 100000% honesty at all times.
hope that helps.
Rusty says 300 days ago
How about both!? How good can it get when your lover is also your best friend.
+1
SMRITI SINHA says 299 days ago
i think....a good friendship at the end turn out into a new relation thats called love...there nothing wrong to love a best friend bcuz a best friend is the one with whom we share everything ....aand the u love u do the same things with them also...but ..still love is very very different feeling as compare as friendship...
Rockbabe says 298 days ago
Love duh ......
although it may destroy your ffriendship afterwarsds .. which is deffo sad !
although it may destroy your ffriendship afterwarsds .. which is deffo sad !
+1
Dasha says 297 days ago
I was in the same situation a few years ago. We were best friends for quite a long time before we started dating. We've been together for 6 years now.
So my vote goes for love and I hope she feels the same way for you...
So my vote goes for love and I hope she feels the same way for you...
Shana says 293 days ago
Why don't you try confessing to her? It's scary because she might reject that love but are you willing to go on just wondering if she has the same feelings for you? Hey, you never know but she might actually feel the same thing for you. If not, then at least you still told her that. And then ask her if you can still be friends. If you won't be able to tell her how you truly feel for her, you are most definitely going to regret it for the rest of your life. Just make sure that if you did confess and was rejected but managed to stay friends, don't act like an angry jerk about her boyfriend. She's going to feel awkward enough telling you about it (if she considers you her best friend, she might tell you, and it's not something she can hide from you anyway) considering that she knows how you feel about her. Oh, and by the way, if you did get rejected, I can think of three possibilities why. First, she just doesn't like you that way. Second, she may feel the same way but is scared of going out with you because she's scared that things would change between you two, for the worse that is. Third, she does love you romantically but is not aware of that yet.
Pushan says 293 days ago
I'm going through this trouble right now.I was his best frnd and he is in love with me ,when I'm not.Got to ask him .............Haha..............
Wanderer says 269 days ago
hmm... it is really a difficult question to answer. 'cause it all depends on the combined feelings of both of you. It is not a bad thing if a friend turns lover, but you need to take care before you move your next step. If your next step could put your friendship under risk, better stay away from proposing her 'cause friendship is really precious. once you lose trust in her view, it is almost impossible to gain again.
If she is very much closer to you, you could put your proposal in front of her. And don't force her to accept. Let her decide the whole thing and remind her that she is free to take any decision and you shall abide by it.
I wish you good luck with your Love and Friendship :)
If she is very much closer to you, you could put your proposal in front of her. And don't force her to accept. Let her decide the whole thing and remind her that she is free to take any decision and you shall abide by it.
I wish you good luck with your Love and Friendship :)
Warren says 268 days ago
It's not worth destroying a friendship, especially if the guy didn't do anything wrong. Going behind your friend's back is never cool. Be careful cause that person might be playing you both!
Pinayramblings says 130 days ago
Look for signs first. Maybe you should tell her that you are about to tell a girl that you love her, then see how she reacts. If she acted excited for you and offered her help, then maybe she only sees you as a platonic friend. If she gets jealous and avoided you for a while, then that means she feels the same way about you.
TheHohollywood says 122 days ago
Hello,
From experience, if you guys have been friends for a long time, then I would stay friends. There are many other people out there you could start a love based relationship with, and you wouldn't want to ruin a friendship if things don't work out right? Just my opinion. Good luck!
From experience, if you guys have been friends for a long time, then I would stay friends. There are many other people out there you could start a love based relationship with, and you wouldn't want to ruin a friendship if things don't work out right? Just my opinion. Good luck!
Wabbit says 103 days ago
we were very close friends for half year before we decided to get together. He changed by avoiding me knowing it's not gonna work out just because he felt that I loved him more. We just broke up a day before Valentine's Day but at least the guy I really know is back to accompany me and make sure I was ok :) Status may have changed on his side, but I think he should know better than any1 that my feelings have not chang but only increased since the day i got attracted to him unnoticed. The feeling is weird for me now but it's hard to explain when it's combination of lost and gain in my current situation :(
JavabynataraJ says 116 days ago
Be carefull. Find the feelings with her friends. Know it then propose to her.
Lazyprophet says 69 days ago
don't rather than that i would say try to upgrade the friendship so it becomes lifelong. Can't agree with u.
Alice In Magicland says 71 days ago
ask her what does she want in her dreamboy, you're best friends, she'll share it to you. If you're like he wants her dremboy to be, then Love.
Otherwise Friendship
Otherwise Friendship
Lazyprophet says 69 days ago
dude don't think so much just ask her out,
i missed my chance while thinking those stupid things, i lost my best friend as well as love, since now she has her own life...
so grab the chance, best friends turn lover---- best combo buddy.
i missed my chance while thinking those stupid things, i lost my best friend as well as love, since now she has her own life...
so grab the chance, best friends turn lover---- best combo buddy.
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Beanizer says 860 days ago
you can still love her silently though,,maybe in that way she'll love you more than a friend too..hmmmm..just take precautions:) Gudluck!