small talks, hmm it depends on the situation, on my case we are at a seminar, then i asked him what he can say about the speakers topic, and then boom! we've been talking until the end of the seminar and the next day we became buddies :)
turn off? to start a converstion? well only if you started a stupid topic, or something in which the answer is so obvious, and the real turn off is pretending to be dumb when you are not, so make sure, if you are going to initiate the first move, you really have something to clarify or comment into..
Of course its okay for a girl to make the first move. What is this 1850? I think one of the most misunderstood ideas is how women need to communicate their intentions and thoughts more explicitly instead of hoping that men read their minds.
Well- because us- filipinas we were taught different values, but for heaven's sake we are now in the 21st century, so I think it's okay to do the first move! Just don't use the cheesy lines like-- Hi, you look familiar, are you by any chance my future boyfriend?" that's tacky!! :)
Just be friendly, and compliment the guy, if he's wearing a nice top or something, or you can be honest and say " I like you, I think you're cute" if he says, "I'm sorry you're not my type" then you can tell him, You're only kidding on! :)
hey, i think its very ok for a girl to make the first move. it shouldnt be the guy all the time and i believe the situation matters aswell. it doesnt make the girl any lesser or not appreciated. its baically doing whatever makes you happy as a woman.
Its not so much of a big deal if a girl makes the first move. The only problem with this option is that the guy may take the girl for granted-----> This is why it is not advisable 4 a girl to make the first move. -------------->