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Is there any relation b/w Sex & Depression or any misconceptions?

Ritesh Srivastav on Sex, Depression, Misconception, Understanding

Depression is a negative term whereas Sex is not negative.Neither it is positive.It is rather neutral. For monks & ascetics,sex is not to ponder about while for the passionate its the ultimate search to relieve his stress.To relate Sex with depression it becomes necessary to focus on the negative aspect of sex & that is an unrestricted & an unnecessary sexual pondering which results in virtual emotions & claimed satisfaction without actual happiness. This leads to depression in the longer run & frustration in the temporary period unconsciously.
Sex is creational energy but if the flow of that energy becomes unregulated it causes disorders in society & in the personal life ruining the emotional capacities of people to tackle everyday challenges of life.
Upto the time when sex is natural ,it assists the universal continuation but when it becomes unnatural it disturbs the universal frequency which we see in form of woman realted crimes increasing numbers.
Tame the devil anyhow but don't get tamed by that.If we can do that that devil is a benevolent deity for us & for all the coming generations.
Do give ur view to simplify this ignored but sensitive element of the society ....!

24 Replies

Omar Khaleel ∙ 14 weeks ago

There are two different concepts here and its a little confusing, there is the act of sex and the sexual drive. If you are talking about the act of sex then there is minimal association between that and depression (if you think about it; would anyone change their style because they are depressed ?) but if you were talking about the sex drive then there is an almost absolute connection there. Some people (Freud) go as far as saying its the cause of depression while most others think decreased sexual drive is merely a result of the psychosomatic change that occurs when you are depressed.

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 14 weeks ago

Without sexual drive there can be no act of sex my friend but the issue is the nature of that drive & the time relation to it.For depression these elements r unconsciously attached to the satisfaction of the mind & when that state is not achieved, it leads to chronic depressions & in worst forms it projects as sexual crimes of heinous nature which cause an immediate threat to social order ....!

Geeta Lal ∙ 14 weeks ago

Omar Khaleel, I agree with you totally on your your views and with Sigmund Freud too. I am one of the greatest lovers of all his theories, coz his theories have practical application. Whatever he said, proved out to be right word by word. I'll have to research on what Freud said in regards to sex and sexual drive, coz it is not possible that his theories go wrong. Give me some time, I'll be back on this topic after researching.

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 14 weeks ago

In the Indian context,the theory of Freud doesn't work that often & that is because we have a different set of social & cultural standards. I m not against his theories but I would definitely prefer the Indian version where performing ur duties, attaining wealth,fulfilling ambitions(both sexual & non sexual) & finally liberating urself from the cycle of life, everything is in a beautiful order.Only our inabilities to understand the forces working within & upon us leads to disorders like depressions & all ....friend!

Geeta Lal ∙ 14 weeks ago

Ritesh, I disagree to what you have written above. Firstly on your first statement, sex and sexual drive are two different things, they are inter related, but not same. Sex is possible without the sexual drive also, and sexual drive can be there in any individual who is not being part of a sexual activity. Depression is a very wide time, and its causes multifarious, actually I do not know in particular which stream of study you are from, but depression has uncountable reasons. Regarding maniacs and perverts if we are talking, as you mentioned " it leads to chronic depressions & in worst forms it projects as sexual crimes of heinous nature which cause an immediate threat to social order ", this happens not because of depression but instead coz of hormonal imbalances in those persons, and the imbalances can be genetic also, being carried from generation to generation. It depends on the kind of diet, company, friends, the environment one is exposed to during teens, especially during puberty, the kind of literature one reads and so on..........If libidinal energy is not channelized properly, its then that people especially in males, that they become violent or they resort to sexual crimes. Whatever, I have written here is what I have read in this regard, and the knowledge I carry after reading various books. The contemporary theories which have come up in last 10 years, I am not aware of those. Ritesh, you have also talked of libido and that it causes disorders in society. I think it is always better to look at the question from as many point of views as you can, sociological, psychological/psychoanalytic, philosophical, and if one can go deep, the existential approach & so many others. Ritesh, I am asking this question the second time, would you like to share what genre you are studying? The kind of questions which generate in your mind, have some roots somewhere? You have lot of inhibitions? World is not so bad, girls should be more worried in the current scenario !!

Geeta Lal ∙ 14 weeks ago

I still disagree to what you have written Ritesh, coz I have been observing everything in the Indian setting, and even after ages, when Freud is no more, his theories can be applied anywhere. I don't know how much you have read him, and observed children from their infancy, if you do so, you will fall in love with his theories. ofcourse, you can call me biased in saying this, but behaviour can be understood most well if one studies his theories and sees its practical application. Though, most of the Indians might find him weird, it is a fact, that people generally don't accept what is the bare truth. And he unraveled the truth, personality types, study of behaviour, disorders and so much more. What I can say is that maybe I am weird, so I have read behaviour of infants, young, and old deeply and seen that Freud's theories are the best one's. And theories are supposed to have global perspectives, its never culture specific.

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 14 weeks ago

First of all....Geeta....I appreciate u for ur efforts to describe the quest & analyze it from various prospectives.
But secondly I would like to inform u my dear that there r only 3 aspects to reason something & 2 of them r popular namely the subjective & objective approach. The 3rd is the observer approach & this is only the master angle of indian wisdom. From that angle sex is an energy which lays the foundation of a life.I can understand the difference b/w sexual drive & act of sex in modern terms & definitions of theoretical standards but as per my culture I understand it far better in practical terms.
The sexual energy moves upwards or downwards in u depends on ur inherent tendencies & ur current experiences involving the endeavors of both the past & the present. The endeavor is a vital element which is the core focus of indian philosophy but unfortunately ignored by Freudian psychology. Afterall psychology is the study of mind only which is an instrument of the soul like the intellect. Soul consciousness is required to trace the origins & evolutions of energy. It cant be explored from the mind which is limited to time, space & causation friend.
For myself ,frankly speaking I don't think I have any inhibitions at all & for u I would like to suggest the studies of indian philosophy & culture dear & I believe this will help u to ponder away from foreign ideologies which r basically more theoretical in nature.
U want to know my genre friend. My blogger profile reveals me a lot & apart from that I m an aspirationt of Indian Administrative Services!

Geeta Lal ∙ 14 weeks ago

You are talking more of philosophical and existential point of view. In a country like ours, I don't think all these values and culture make any difference. India is a country, where just becoz the society does not allow it, evils and sins take place everywhere, but under a cover, and that's where the whole problem lies. Now free sex is a taboo, due to which we have rapes, we have cases and cases like the Delhi gang rape, and also living relationships are a taboo, so we have divorces, and then disturbed children if the father and mother do not have the element of love and care for each other, addiction to smoking and drugs, and the list is endless...........You know why I have been reproving, coz I've studied psychology as well as sociology in details............ofcourse, knowledge can never be complete, its just my view.........Whatever we Indians do, we don't do anything completely, if we copy the West, its incomplete, if we believe in our religious values its not complete, if we love, its not complete, nothing is as such complete, care ,respect, anything for that matter, which is the root cause of our misery..........if we are following a sect, we do not do that religiously..........and that is the Indian panorama according to me, and I can be totally wrong....."to err is human"

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 14 weeks ago

I think I got ur point & angle of study here & still I appreciate ur research. But India as a country is known for its insights & I m a strong admirer of the ancient indian wisdom. Spirituality & science was the same for India & our sages used to be the seer of scientific wisdom. Swamy Viivekanand was the first global citizen of india because he projected the indian wisdom globally.
Any personality disorder is an outcome of moral weakness of spirit & philosophy is the father of psychology my dear if u study hierarchy of human sciences.
I respect ur emotions & understanding of human sciences & thank u fr ur participation friend. Take care.....have a good day....!

Geeta Lal ∙ 14 weeks ago

Thanks Ritesh, you made me really happy. You've brought such a huge smile on my face. You are so predictable, I knew it. Thanks again, it would have interested me more, if my perception about you would have proved wrong. No offenses to you, but to all the Indian men, who talk about consciousness and energy, and all those Guru's........and philosophy...........let me grow superficial and shallow, probably then I'll be able to study philosophy........no offenses to the study of philosophy, only to the Guru's and the followers who preach, and do not fear of God, action speaks louder than words..........and their actions the whole World knows..........I end my side of discussion here coz there is no end to this.......I have answers and explanations, but no time as of now.......

Geeta Lal ∙ 14 weeks ago

All the best for Your IAS........

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 14 weeks ago

Thanks a lot friend....psychology & philosophy r friends of humanity & they r like a torch to guide humanity in the darkest of their times....our expressions r the outcome of our ideologies which creates problems when rigid but becomes a boon when they r flexible in according to situations. Nature of all men r the same, its the habits which separate them essentially ....!

Teddy ∙ 14 weeks ago

AAWWWWW HELL,,,,, I don't even remember what that is anymore..hahaha

Teddy ∙ 14 weeks ago

You know,,,, I was going to quit blogging and when I started reading all of this, I forgot and started typing and posting again. I was almost gone and now here I am up here again opening my big mouth. Now I have to start over..... But this IS interesting. Besides , it is a commandment from God to do. So where's the problem?

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 14 weeks ago

Friend, actually there isn't any problem. Words can be different for different people but the philosophy remains the same.We start our understanding from our cultural & social points & end up to globalize & generalize that.
But here is a fundamental problem what I believe & that is we forget the basic structures of a particular culture which forms the core of its ideology & which is perhaps responsible to give it a distinct identity from the rest.
Assimilation should always be welcomed but imitation is not at all required as it threatens the existence of that identity.
Our cultures gave us those specific habits which made us unique & distinct with a flexible boundary to appreciate & assimilate values of other cultures.
For example ,here the query was on the difference b/w sexual drive & act of sex & psychological theories were given to substantiate the answers.
Let me ask u my dear in laymen terms what is a drive? Well,the possible answer would be that its a trigger to continue a specific behavior expecting a particular reward. But this drive can be natural or unnatural based on ur habits which inculcates ur understanding of ur behavior.
An act of sex without a natural drive is meaningless & with an unnatural drive its useless. Because in either of these situations u cannot feel the joy from ur spirit. Similarly, having a sexual drive without involving in sexual activity is a false notion because then again its the flow of ur sexual energy in upward or downward direction. Even if u don't involve in act of sex, ur thought on it causes that energy to flow downward & this leads to hormonal ejections in form of ejaculations which is exactly the outcome of the act of sex.
But yes in the reverse case when u guide ur thoughts to seek ur true self through meditation, study of religion & philosophy & contemplations on the universal energies, ur same sex energy starts to move upwards towards ur nervous centers of ur brain & this is what we call growing in consciousness friend

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 13 weeks ago

Happy Valentine's day to everyone....!

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 13 weeks ago

The recent crime records shows a geometrical increase in woman related crimes & some of my friends say that it is becaue of hormonal disorders largely which create those kinds of criminals.Let me ask u there r gang rapes very often now,so do we believe that all of the gang members r suffering from disorders. No,this is not possible.
Actually, stress factors tends to create frustrations & inorder to relieve that stress,immorality becomes a powerful means which is easy to access & the process is appealing .The reward of immense pleasure & satisfaction is either primary fuel to sustain the immoral drive & that emotion is strong enough to carry the patience of civil behaviors which is quite restrictive & bound for those devils.
Conclusively,the order is: Stress factors,

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 13 weeks ago

Yes,the possible order is : stress factors, arousal of suppressed emotions which can be either because of hormonal disorders or immoral experiences of unforgettable intensity, dilemma in choosing the way to release stress,giving up of patience to continue civilian behaviors ,simultaneous thoughts of immense pleasure & satisfaction in process of commiting of that immoral act & even ignoring the gravest outcomes for the sake of that instant

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 13 weeks ago

instantaneous enjoyment ....!

Princess Blog ∙ 13 weeks ago

Hie RS. How you??
Happy Belated Valentine's Day to you. How was yours??
I think for many people sex and depression are interrelated. Like I have a girl in my college who could not resist herself having sex with some one when she was depressed. I am extremely against this even if somebody would try to explain or convince me for doing so. because, sex is a pleasure but only when you are related to the person emotionally too. Especially, girl should always posses some dignity. And same goes for men too.

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 13 weeks ago

Hi....Princess ....I m really fine....what abt u friend ...?
Valentine's day is always good for me coz I m still single ...hahaha...!
Well,I believe it was good for u too....!
Depression & sex r ofcourse interrelated .....& ur example is in the same direction .....good remark....!

Princess Blog ∙ 13 weeks ago

I'm good too. :)

Ritesh Srivastav ∙ 13 weeks ago

Sex education is a big question in its implementation....otherwise there r less ways to create necessary awareness among the masses ....!

Amy Pollard ∙ 13 weeks ago

Sex isn't the problem. Moral weakness resulting from immoderation (in all aspects of life) is the problem. If people are not living in moderation, then they quickly become slaves to their desires, causing moral weakness that leads to destructive behavior.

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