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Supahh says 815 days ago
Hi Beanizer! thank you for your advices! my life right now is incomparable to what i've been through before.. cos i've never felt this kind of pain before.. hmm i like the part when you said,
"if i make myself a total desperate failure, my failure will only destroy me not the person who broke my heart.."
that's why, im truly giving myself a chance to start something new for my life.. and the important part, is to..
save what's left in me...
really inspiring..
thank you so much..
"if i make myself a total desperate failure, my failure will only destroy me not the person who broke my heart.."
that's why, im truly giving myself a chance to start something new for my life.. and the important part, is to..
save what's left in me...
really inspiring..
thank you so much..
Sudhir Chauhan says 850 days ago
Only you can help yourself. people will come up with many ideas but they are all useless untill you yourself decide to move on. youneed to make yourself strong and make yourself understand that the person was not right for you. its nothing but a mental game and you need to regulate your brain to move on.
you will soon find one more compatible, more caring and more loving. sentiments is the biggest enemy of human beings, it destroys positive thinking of brain.
talk to yourself and let your brain understand that the person was not at all right for you so you left and moved on in life.
all the best
you will soon find one more compatible, more caring and more loving. sentiments is the biggest enemy of human beings, it destroys positive thinking of brain.
talk to yourself and let your brain understand that the person was not at all right for you so you left and moved on in life.
all the best
Supahh says 817 days ago
you are definitely right! thanks for commenting on this. It seems like you've been through this kind of problem as well before.. I do have an issue when it comes to thinking.. I'm always paranoid and even tho i come up with many ideas to be able to let go, i don't feel any better. But when i started to think properly and know myself more, i started to feel better and more at ease unlike before.. only when you understand yourself, then you'll start realizing so many lessons to be learned..
Nasar says 838 days ago
to invlove your self in useful activities .
try to be busy as much as possible.
try to be busy as much as possible.
Emzy Memzy says 837 days ago
wow! i do experience what you feel. what to do? we feel so low no matter what we do. there's the kind of pain that refuses to go especially when you reminisce the things you usually do with that other person.
right now, I'm in the process of letting go. it's hard but I must love myself fisrt and foremost. If it hurts and you do shed a lot of tears more than happiness already then it's not meant to be.
what to do? first do pray. that's what i do everytime the pain revisits me. pray for that person you love too that he will survive the pain too. then learn to forgive. think of it this way, if he's a good person and he is not right for me then there's much better than him to come. then do something productive. like making yourself more beautiful or prettier lol. if the pain keeps on coming back then don't force yourself. let it be and one day hope so it will be gone.
change you're way of thinking and your feelings will follow
right now, I'm in the process of letting go. it's hard but I must love myself fisrt and foremost. If it hurts and you do shed a lot of tears more than happiness already then it's not meant to be.
what to do? first do pray. that's what i do everytime the pain revisits me. pray for that person you love too that he will survive the pain too. then learn to forgive. think of it this way, if he's a good person and he is not right for me then there's much better than him to come. then do something productive. like making yourself more beautiful or prettier lol. if the pain keeps on coming back then don't force yourself. let it be and one day hope so it will be gone.
change you're way of thinking and your feelings will follow
Supahh says 818 days ago
hi.., honestly, after i read your messages, i felt totally better than before.. knowing that someone feels the same way as i do and understands what im truly going through right now.. it's a tough road for both of us.. you know, i thought before that we really are meant to be.. but time changed the pace.. it's not about us anymore.. it's about the truth the hurts the most.. the truth that i don't want to see.. but becos of time, i'm starting to realize that we really aren't meant to be.. im not saying it that im sure about it cos we never know. we don't know what the future will bring us.. but yes,i feel much stronger now than before..the last time i wrote here, i felt like breaking down..being all crazy..but now, im starting to find my way to a better life..
Emzy Memzy says 837 days ago
and go out with your friends. friends will help a lot. talk your feelings out or write everything you wanted to say like blogging. it keeps you busy. or play typing maniac on facebook.. ahahaha that's what I do. divert yourself. only you can help yourself if you're willing.
Supahh says 818 days ago
one thing i also learned through my journey of letting go of the person i truly love.... is that, it's better to get rid off all the dreams, hopes and promises. because, it will get you to nowhere.. it's time for us to start a new journey on our own. without him in it.. without him anymore.. hmmm... i also learned that even tho i have friends that are always ready to be there for me whenever i need them, i still need time for myself as well. because i'll rather be real to myself that if i don't feel like going out, i wont do it.cos in the end if i force myself to get out from my shell,it will only feel worst.and i already experienced it. but yeah, facebook-ing is one way too lol.. but, not really for me.. i guess this blogging thing helps me more..
well... we can do this. i kno we can.
i didn't have the courage like this before, but here i am saying all these things like i never felt before..
We both can get through this.
well... we can do this. i kno we can.
i didn't have the courage like this before, but here i am saying all these things like i never felt before..
We both can get through this.
Supahh says 818 days ago
everything you said was right. we both should get over the past that we once had. we just have to be strong and not give in! we'll work on it.we will get through all these challenges!
Juene says 816 days ago
try to meet new guys! maybe you'll have a bf after. From my own experience having another relationship helps me to move on.
Supahh says 814 days ago
Hi Juene.. from ur own experience, are u still with the guy that helped you moved on? hope u dont mind... but, in my experience im not ready to face other guys nor want to have a boyfriend just to move on. if u ask me why? because i don't want that guy to be a rebound. meaning, i don't want to be with that person just to help me move on because it will only hurt that person...and that's not fair. not a fan of flings nor short relationships..
it's hard to let go and even imagine myself to be with someone else.. and i guess, that's the truth from a true love experience.. people get hurt, but we choose our paths whether to take the wrong step, or go to a right direction for a better life..
all the best. :)
it's hard to let go and even imagine myself to be with someone else.. and i guess, that's the truth from a true love experience.. people get hurt, but we choose our paths whether to take the wrong step, or go to a right direction for a better life..
all the best. :)
Juene says 813 days ago
hi supahdancee,It's like this, my first love left me.I thought i would die without him.
I met this guy, we started out as friends, I don't even like him at first! yikes!( he knows that ). But, he was so patient on me, he was there to talk.. he got big ears to listen, lucky me! i begun to fall in love with him. Our relationship is on its 3rd year now. Yes, we are very much together!
I won't call it rebounding, because before i became his girl, I had a feelings for him already. We saw each other for more than a year before we entered the relationship.
im just telling you to meet guys, who can tell, maybe one of them might catch your attention!
I met this guy, we started out as friends, I don't even like him at first! yikes!( he knows that ). But, he was so patient on me, he was there to talk.. he got big ears to listen, lucky me! i begun to fall in love with him. Our relationship is on its 3rd year now. Yes, we are very much together!
I won't call it rebounding, because before i became his girl, I had a feelings for him already. We saw each other for more than a year before we entered the relationship.
im just telling you to meet guys, who can tell, maybe one of them might catch your attention!
Juene says 813 days ago
It's hard to let go definitely! I've been there and back. Feelings will fade trust me.. Focus yourself on your work, stop thinking of him, start moving forward..
You cannot imagine yourself with someone else?? thats not letting go girl.. you have to accept the truth that IT'S ALL OVER so you can move on.
You cannot imagine yourself with someone else?? thats not letting go girl.. you have to accept the truth that IT'S ALL OVER so you can move on.
Supahh says 811 days ago
Hi Juene, you're a one lucky girl. :)
finding someone who'll love you again the way you deserve it is great!
and seeing someone for a year like that before entering a relationship again is definitely awesome..
because after getting hurt, there will always be something like turning away from it becos of being scared that it will hurt again..
i know im not on that stage yet..
but i think it's normal for me to be like this.. not imagining anything like being with someone else etc..
because it takes time..
time heals everything that hurt..
time heals all the wounds from love..
and i am willing to wait for the right time to really let go of him..
it will take time..
cos a true love like this,
it's hard to let all the feelings fade..
finding someone who'll love you again the way you deserve it is great!
and seeing someone for a year like that before entering a relationship again is definitely awesome..
because after getting hurt, there will always be something like turning away from it becos of being scared that it will hurt again..
i know im not on that stage yet..
but i think it's normal for me to be like this.. not imagining anything like being with someone else etc..
because it takes time..
time heals everything that hurt..
time heals all the wounds from love..
and i am willing to wait for the right time to really let go of him..
it will take time..
cos a true love like this,
it's hard to let all the feelings fade..
Supahh says 811 days ago
girl, im trying my best not to think of him.. and honestly, i hate quiet places.. esp. before going to bed at night..
because that's when my emotions strike me..
unstoppable..
*sigh...
it's so sad..
but i just keep telling myself that i have to get through this..
cos i still have to do lots of things in my life..
not only about him...
btw.. even now that ur happy,
is there a point in your life that you remember your first love?
thanks for sharing your stories..
because that's when my emotions strike me..
unstoppable..
*sigh...
it's so sad..
but i just keep telling myself that i have to get through this..
cos i still have to do lots of things in my life..
not only about him...
btw.. even now that ur happy,
is there a point in your life that you remember your first love?
thanks for sharing your stories..
Juene says 808 days ago
hi.. you'll heal sooner. I'm praying for you. If I can do it you can do it too!
And during those lonely nights, cry, cry a lot till your feelings drowned!
Yes, I remember him.. he left me with scars but feelings is gone. I could talk to him straightly with no regrets of loosing him. I deserved someone better!
And during those lonely nights, cry, cry a lot till your feelings drowned!
Yes, I remember him.. he left me with scars but feelings is gone. I could talk to him straightly with no regrets of loosing him. I deserved someone better!
Juene says 808 days ago
you know one time he shove me off the street because he doesn't want to talk. I want a reconcilation that time. I was crying and shame everybody is watching!
What did i do next??? I cried for an hour then I remember the people who was watching the scene... I told myself they cannot pity me! I took a bath, I wear my best blouse, seat there in the beranda and smile to all people passing by. Im telling the world I'm still ok..
What did i do next??? I cried for an hour then I remember the people who was watching the scene... I told myself they cannot pity me! I took a bath, I wear my best blouse, seat there in the beranda and smile to all people passing by. Im telling the world I'm still ok..
Juene says 808 days ago
That was my first humilation in public for love. I didn't stop yet. I send SMS, he should meet me to talk, He agreed..
I was in the meeting place, he never waited for me. He goes off before I could get there. THATS what you call, shame on me for still trying. It was the last try.
Now I enjoy it when he is seeing me on my best... and I seeing him at his worst.. Hehehehehehehe. It's my sweet revenge!
Hope my story would inspire you or make you smile at least!
I was in the meeting place, he never waited for me. He goes off before I could get there. THATS what you call, shame on me for still trying. It was the last try.
Now I enjoy it when he is seeing me on my best... and I seeing him at his worst.. Hehehehehehehe. It's my sweet revenge!
Hope my story would inspire you or make you smile at least!
Supahh says 802 days ago
wow you're a tough woman..your story made me realize soo many things.. it really did made me smile when i read it..it brought me hope for a better tomorrow.. i guess, it truly means there's no way we can forget..we might be able to forgive, but to forget isn't gonna happen.. or maybe, if the right time comes when im already moved on, i won't be having flashbacks remembering the past.. but again, it's like a scar like what you've said.. it will be stuck in our memories.. especially if he's the first one..
Supahh says 802 days ago
and i think, it's only our will if we should still think about the past or not..that's truly amazing how you still showed everyone out there that you were okay and that they cannot pity you.. that's what a real woman is..
and yeah, we should be brave enough to face everything.. cos no matter what happens, those people don't know anything about us.. and knowing that what happened to my situation isn't the worst situation compared to others, i feel so much better..
as for myself, i only know what's best to do. those lonely quiet nights, crying in my bed while thinking about him.. makes me wonder sometimes.. cos the feelings i have for him is too strong.. but i really think im in control..knowing the right thing to do..
sometimes, i get tired of crying.. really upset about my life.. sometimes because of too much crying, it feels like i can't cry no more.. and yea no tears anymore.. but after a few days, back to the same old self..cry cry cry..
and yeah, we should be brave enough to face everything.. cos no matter what happens, those people don't know anything about us.. and knowing that what happened to my situation isn't the worst situation compared to others, i feel so much better..
as for myself, i only know what's best to do. those lonely quiet nights, crying in my bed while thinking about him.. makes me wonder sometimes.. cos the feelings i have for him is too strong.. but i really think im in control..knowing the right thing to do..
sometimes, i get tired of crying.. really upset about my life.. sometimes because of too much crying, it feels like i can't cry no more.. and yea no tears anymore.. but after a few days, back to the same old self..cry cry cry..
Supahh says 802 days ago
but life has to go on..
im happy for you!:) you truly deserve someone better who'll treat you right..
continue living your life to the fullest..
blessings will come our way..
i believe that someday i will get to that as well..
cheers!
im happy for you!:) you truly deserve someone better who'll treat you right..
continue living your life to the fullest..
blessings will come our way..
i believe that someday i will get to that as well..
cheers!
Thiruselvam K says 816 days ago
KEEP BUSY. Is there a hidden hand blessing you for a better person to come along. Perhaps,the parting was meant to happen, like a long haul flight that stops for a while to refuel,before continuing its journey. This parting is preparation for the better. Keep occupied. Mix more. Tell yourself the better is coming. Smile and be cheery.
Supahh says 814 days ago
Hi! thank you for that.. i guess, the parting was really meant to happen tho it was hard for me to swallow the truth.. it took me sometime and i am finally accepting the fact little by little.. i really hope for the better because the past relationship that i had caused me more heartaches than happiness.. due to soo many problems that we have to accept too..
when im out, i still try my best to enjoy and smile at them.. but honestly, it's hard.. hard to pretend that im okay.. hard to pretend that i can have fun and be out there..
in the end, im still glad somehow, knowing that even tho i am facing my
worst nightmare, i can tell them that i AM TRYING..
when im out, i still try my best to enjoy and smile at them.. but honestly, it's hard.. hard to pretend that im okay.. hard to pretend that i can have fun and be out there..
in the end, im still glad somehow, knowing that even tho i am facing my
worst nightmare, i can tell them that i AM TRYING..
Funvdsonu says 814 days ago
dear truth is u will never forget him... bt u jst stop thinking abt him after some time... and if u keep talking abt him like this then for sure u vl never forget... time is the best anticeptic to heal this love wound...
Supahh says 812 days ago
thanks dear.. i said that to myself before.. that even tho someday i will be able to let go of him, i will never forget him. the person who was there with me while having one of the best time of my life..
Truth hurts..
and it's one of the ways that i do to let all my feelings out.. i kno that i should also stop talkin about him like this.. but this really helps me alot..
right that time will heal all the wounds..
and i wish, it's that easy..
Truth hurts..
and it's one of the ways that i do to let all my feelings out.. i kno that i should also stop talkin about him like this.. but this really helps me alot..
right that time will heal all the wounds..
and i wish, it's that easy..
Maryia says 814 days ago
wel....breaking up is like having the worst nightmare after having the most beautiful dream! i no how much it hurts...missing n remembering all the sweet things bt it hurts remembering...so dont thinks abt that! the minute u realize that ur missing hm etc jus get buey n get ur mind off it n try thinking abt other stuff like, hey i am going to do this n that tonite or go out to visit a place or somthn like that! if u cant stop thinkin abt hm thn try thinkin abt his bad qualities like, cheee man remember wen he used to- do somthn embarassing or somthn- or like somthn he was not really good at bt u were etc! that helps alil...lol! n try thinkin ab reasons y it is good for u not to be with hm! i will be glad to no if i cud help... :)
Supahh says 812 days ago
hi maryia, yes you are sooo right..:( breaking up is like having the worst nightmare after having the most beautiful dream..
i tell you, these days i've been dreaming about him.. and being in that dream.., feels like it's real but knowing that i can only have that kind of happiness while dreaming,
knowing that i can only be with him in my dreams,
knowing that everything's just an illusion cos it will never be the same,
make me wanna break down and fall on my knees..
i've been doing rounds to do stuffs that could help me let go of him.. your advices are really good.. i always forget to think of why i'm better off without him.. i should always have those reasons in mind.. thanks for reminding me! :)
i tell you, these days i've been dreaming about him.. and being in that dream.., feels like it's real but knowing that i can only have that kind of happiness while dreaming,
knowing that i can only be with him in my dreams,
knowing that everything's just an illusion cos it will never be the same,
make me wanna break down and fall on my knees..
i've been doing rounds to do stuffs that could help me let go of him.. your advices are really good.. i always forget to think of why i'm better off without him.. i should always have those reasons in mind.. thanks for reminding me! :)
CrystalKM says 813 days ago
I just read this somewhere a few days ago. It might not necessarily help now, but it's something to take into consideration:
"Take a second to think about this: in your life you search and search for the right person for you. Every time you break up with someone you get one step closer to that person. You should look at moving on as getting closer to meeting the one."
"Take a second to think about this: in your life you search and search for the right person for you. Every time you break up with someone you get one step closer to that person. You should look at moving on as getting closer to meeting the one."
+1
Supahh says 812 days ago
hi! thanks for that powerful message you got there! i am really inspired by you..
this made me realize so many things..
it made me think of another reason to live for the better and continue looking forward to a new life.. thank you so much! in a way, this changed my way of thinking..
cos no matter how we get hurt in the end, we still don't kno who we'll be ending up with..
thank you so much..
this is really inspiring..
this made me realize so many things..
it made me think of another reason to live for the better and continue looking forward to a new life.. thank you so much! in a way, this changed my way of thinking..
cos no matter how we get hurt in the end, we still don't kno who we'll be ending up with..
thank you so much..
this is really inspiring..
Gurpreet says 813 days ago
first it seems unbreakable, the bond ,then it does get broken .. then what was it that was unbreakable . we thought we are on drivers seat and every thing is in control ,later we witness ourselves having collisions with pain and suffering .
if it meant a world before ,why it has to change.
if it has to be love ,then why it has to break .
did we make a mistake?
if it meant a world before ,why it has to change.
if it has to be love ,then why it has to break .
did we make a mistake?
Supahh says 811 days ago
Gurpreet...
looks like we're on the same boat..
and facing the reality..
is like a reflection from the past..
never ending pain...
tears..
sadness,
and broken promises..
i've been asking that same question over and over again..
why does it have to end like this if being with that only person is what i wanted the most??
why do things have to change, turning our worlds upside down knowing that everything will never be the same before??
why?...
looks like we're on the same boat..
and facing the reality..
is like a reflection from the past..
never ending pain...
tears..
sadness,
and broken promises..
i've been asking that same question over and over again..
why does it have to end like this if being with that only person is what i wanted the most??
why do things have to change, turning our worlds upside down knowing that everything will never be the same before??
why?...
Supahh says 811 days ago
and knowing that the happiness we felt before is equal to the pain we feel..
totally breaks my heart..
what hurts,
is that we can't do anything about it anymore..
this is the truth..
and losing that only person,
is like losing half of myself..
too painful..
and all i can say is that maybe..
everything does happen for a reason.
wish us the best..
feel free to message me Gurpreet.
thanks!
totally breaks my heart..
what hurts,
is that we can't do anything about it anymore..
this is the truth..
and losing that only person,
is like losing half of myself..
too painful..
and all i can say is that maybe..
everything does happen for a reason.
wish us the best..
feel free to message me Gurpreet.
thanks!
Lewis says 810 days ago
simply put. Nothing will help to forget it fast. There is a big chance that you will never forget. It's normal. Relax. Take a deep breath. Think as a rational person. No self destruction. Keep looking for something new. Always have stuff you love to do, writing, sport, gaming whatever... The things we love to do is our backbone. It's the stuff that nobody will be able to take away from us. People come and go. But the things we love to do always with us. and we happy doing them.
Supahh says 810 days ago
Hi Lewis. thanks for commenting on this. Right this time, i am working on myself cos often, i am the one who's destructing myself because of all the wrong thoughts and emotions.. almost every single day, i end up thinking of nonesense things..
but there are times when im alone, i end up doing what i love to do.. like music for example..
i totally agree with you that doing what we love to do is our only backbone.. and they can never do anything about it cos this is what we want..
but there are times when im alone, i end up doing what i love to do.. like music for example..
i totally agree with you that doing what we love to do is our only backbone.. and they can never do anything about it cos this is what we want..
Supahh says 810 days ago
even tho i hate my situation right now,
i can still be proud of myself that
somehow, im using my talents and making
use of my time wisely.. by doing things
that i love the most..
:)
i can still be proud of myself that
somehow, im using my talents and making
use of my time wisely.. by doing things
that i love the most..
:)
Western Supply says 799 days ago
bury yourself into doing lots of things - occuply your time with work, school stuff ( if you're students) - always work...
next thing you know, you hardly even remember things about the past. Time is the best healer...
so many people gone through break ups and when they look back they just laugh at it. you will get over it..
next thing you know, you hardly even remember things about the past. Time is the best healer...
so many people gone through break ups and when they look back they just laugh at it. you will get over it..
Sweetie says 767 days ago
THATS NO BREAK UP THATS JUST GIVING EACH OTHER TIME 2 THINK ABOUT WHAT THEY REALLY WANT 2 DO 1 and half month thats not a long time at all just go out with friends and family and enjoy yourself my THEORY --->NEVER LET THEM SEE U SWEAT yes it hurts and deep down we want things 2 be back like it use to but heyyyyy we r only human acting like ROBOTS cause we r broke down-----> good part is we can piCK OURSELVES UP
Supahh says 755 days ago
i should really do something about this.. no more memories.. no more looking back..
Chi Chi says 745 days ago
i just went through a hard break up. and believe me, this is more painful because his family talks to me and treat me well after the break up. we are still in good terms and yet WE ARE ON A SELF DENIAL. we madly hate each other and yet we keep on looking for each other's arms.
you can survive a painful break up only if you are ready. stop making yourself feeling in a deep tragic story, be thankful that it stopped already.
saying NO MORE LOOKING Back will not help you either unless you make/made a move. stop lying to yourself, like what Phil McGraw said so.
face and Look in a mirror. talk to the person you see in a mirror. stop making promises, but DO SOMETHING if you REALLY WANT to move on.
you can start by going to a Salon and be beautiful. treat yourself and feel pretty.
you can survive a painful break up only if you are ready. stop making yourself feeling in a deep tragic story, be thankful that it stopped already.
saying NO MORE LOOKING Back will not help you either unless you make/made a move. stop lying to yourself, like what Phil McGraw said so.
face and Look in a mirror. talk to the person you see in a mirror. stop making promises, but DO SOMETHING if you REALLY WANT to move on.
you can start by going to a Salon and be beautiful. treat yourself and feel pretty.
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Beanizer says 850 days ago
the best way to move on is having the WILLINGNESS to move on. It's natural to feel that way, but if you want to be happier, distract your attention. If you happen to think of him again, distract yourself and focus on something else..a new hobby/interest.
i've been in that situation and i tell you, i almost die in those months. But, i made a choice..i swallowed the reality that if i make myself a total desperate failure, the world will still revolve.. Meaning,,my failure will only destroy me not the person who broke my heart..thus, i should give myself a new chance to start :)
HAVE THE WILLINGNESS TO MOVE ON AND YOU CAN DO IT:)