Are you referring to just men???
When two people really love each other, you will feel completed by each other and you will know, that the other half of your heart is with you, then and I believe only then, can one say that true love exist. but for the majority it is attraction to the mystery of another confusing it for what is unknown to them as love, but when all mystery is solved and one see's through the eyes of knowledge of their supposed love of their life, then most often disillusion , disappointment and irritation takes the place of what was love in their eyes. We often settle for who we can get, and by not spending time in getting to know that person as completely as possible before tying the knot often leads to bringing children into a world that will end in divorce at sometime. I do not believe in marriage without true love or arranged marriages because the danger comes when without expectation you suddenly run into the one that you know without a shadow of a doubt is your soul mate. It is then that you realize your mistake and the hell you and others will pay for not waiting. I also do not believe, that you have only one soul mate in your life and will never find another for I do believe people have loved and lost their partners through tragedy or through other circumstances and have learned to love fiercely again. Relations is a work in progress, always adapting to life's circumstances and where one partner can handle one thing does not mean the other can. These are just my opinions from my past experiences and may not apply to anyone else. that's my say in the matter......Ted