I think it is always good to speak up what you feel. You should never hold back. I learned this from my Only relationship which is also my past and present as well. But in between these 8 years, we broke up because I couldnt speak up. But, I've corrected it! We are happy now Together!
For some reason my reply to Princess blog won't go through so I will try it this way. I am happy for you....if you have anything that would cause a division between you and him , get rid of it to keep your happiness intact. just my opinion......Your Friend TED
Are you referring to just men??? When two people really love each other, you will feel completed by each other and you will know, that the other half of your heart is with you, then and I believe only then, can one say that true love exist. but for the majority it is attraction to the mystery of another confusing it for what is unknown to them as love, but when all mystery is solved and one see's through the eyes of knowledge of their supposed love of their life, then most often disillusion , disappointment and irritation takes the place of what was love in their eyes. We often settle for who we can get, and by not spending time in getting to know that person as completely as possible before tying the knot often leads to bringing children into a world that will end in divorce at sometime. I do not believe in marriage without true love or arranged marriages because the danger comes when without expectation you suddenly run into the one that you know without a shadow of a doubt is your soul mate. It is then that you realize your mistake and the hell you and others will pay for not waiting. I also do not believe, that you have only one soul mate in your life and will never find another for I do believe people have loved and lost their partners through tragedy or through other circumstances and have learned to love fiercely again. Relations is a work in progress, always adapting to life's circumstances and where one partner can handle one thing does not mean the other can. These are just my opinions from my past experiences and may not apply to anyone else. that's my say in the matter......Ted
1) Have learned that one should not give his/her heart to a self-involved, selfish, person.
No matter how positive the relationship begins, once there is a pattern of being treated in a way that you would not like to see your friend, brother, sister, parent treated it is time to get out. In other words if your love behaves in a manner that devalues you as an individual, that hurts your self-esteem, it is time to politely, firmly & respectfully explain why you are ending the relationship and move on to someone who deserves your time and attention.
There is no easy to to get over a breakup, you basically have to go through the dreaded steps of grief and busy yourself spending quality time with people who love and appreciate you, splurge a little on yourself and get those endorphins up with positive physical activities like exercise or your favorite sport.
Have a lot of fun but don't get too serious.........I went out with women who loved sex as much as I & of course they were called sluts but the blokes where studs, of course. I would hold their hands walking down the streets to their & the so called studs surprise, what am I doing treating so called slut who loved sex as much as I did with respect, they werent studs to me they were Neanderthals who thought this.