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When love is gone! What do you do?
A P Geofrey says 609 days ago
Tell what do you do when the person you loved the most don't love you any more or you don't love him/her any more.
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Jasmine says 602 days ago
I agree, I will let the person go. However, if I don't love that person anymore, I will let them go too, because it is unfair for the person who love you and can't get your love back. And with that person's love, I am sure he will find something who can love him back.
Clarin says 609 days ago
i want him to go...but then i will feel rotten inside if i do that....so i holding him tight....i know it's wrong..
Odliam says 609 days ago
I am not sure it is wrong Clarin.
When one loves, really loves, it is forever! Love never is gone, unless it was only infatuation.
We, humans, tend to confuse love with LOVE!
Of course, there is pity, too. Then it is surely wrong. It will bring only pain and sadness.
When one loves, really loves, it is forever! Love never is gone, unless it was only infatuation.
We, humans, tend to confuse love with LOVE!
Of course, there is pity, too. Then it is surely wrong. It will bring only pain and sadness.
A P Geofrey says 607 days ago
Odiam we live in a world that is very cunning a full of surprise. So i believe to say that love is forever a little bit of an over statement from many perspectives. Nothing in this world of ours is forever dear.
Odliam says 608 days ago
Oh no!
Neither do I want you to be hurt!
My emphasis was on the second line!
The last is only a possibility!
Neither do I want you to be hurt!
My emphasis was on the second line!
The last is only a possibility!
+1
Mirra says 608 days ago
forget it and move on in life!!! he is not the last guy on earth... whatever happens life has to move on.
+2
Mariane says 608 days ago
just to let go. there's no use staying in a relationship if you two both know that you guys don't have the same spark as before. it would just be painful to continue.
Odliam says 607 days ago
@A P Geofrey,
Maybe we should define what we mean by the poor lashed, flogged word LOVE!
I guess I live at the same time as you live, but I think that, as you are so far away in time and space, so are our feelings.
I respect your opinion since it is your own experience, and I know you state it in honesty.
Furthermore, I know that nowadays, it is easier to follow "new" paths (in fact, they are ancient as the world, we humans tend to repeat ourselves) that do not involve to commit our inner self.
However, even if I must, out of respect of different ways of seeing life than mine, say that I 'believe', in fact, by my own experience, I 'know' that when one person loves another, really LOVES, it is forever! It does not matter if this world of ours has so many shortcomings that eternity seems a fallacy.
Maybe we should define what we mean by the poor lashed, flogged word LOVE!
I guess I live at the same time as you live, but I think that, as you are so far away in time and space, so are our feelings.
I respect your opinion since it is your own experience, and I know you state it in honesty.
Furthermore, I know that nowadays, it is easier to follow "new" paths (in fact, they are ancient as the world, we humans tend to repeat ourselves) that do not involve to commit our inner self.
However, even if I must, out of respect of different ways of seeing life than mine, say that I 'believe', in fact, by my own experience, I 'know' that when one person loves another, really LOVES, it is forever! It does not matter if this world of ours has so many shortcomings that eternity seems a fallacy.
Moonomo says 606 days ago
Love doesn't change (it need to be 'love') your perspective change- if that changed, go with it, good for you! :0)
A P Geofrey says 602 days ago
@Odiam,
I know everybody is entitled to his or her opinion and I for one respects everybody's opinion and believes that every opinion is worth stating. Though every opinion is derived from our experiences and are stated in honesty, and might be true they are not always right.
An opinion on a subject though can be true might not necessarily be right for many reasons if not for the simple fact that being an opinion it's filled with emotions and personal experiences and most of the time void of any scientific or objective thinking.
I know everybody is entitled to his or her opinion and I for one respects everybody's opinion and believes that every opinion is worth stating. Though every opinion is derived from our experiences and are stated in honesty, and might be true they are not always right.
An opinion on a subject though can be true might not necessarily be right for many reasons if not for the simple fact that being an opinion it's filled with emotions and personal experiences and most of the time void of any scientific or objective thinking.
A P Geofrey says 602 days ago
Now if there is going to be a debate on the subject matter "LOVE" then I think it would be wise for us to do so systematically. Though I'd like to debate the subject face to face because points are made and countered faster thus coming to a rational and objective conclusion in no time, It will still be a pleasure for me to share my point of view on the subject matter here and hope everyone can do so too.
A P Geofrey says 602 days ago
Now I guess it would only be normal for me to say what I think about the subject:
1- I think love that is real LOVE is genuinely good in essence(itself) and is an end not a means an also is forever.
2- I think love is and must be between two-person to person, person to animals(cats dogs etc) person to material things(cars, houses etc).
3- I believe that love true LOVE can exist between two people at a point in time and at certain point in time can seize to be because it falls short of one of the characteristics of love above *FOREVER*(I guess this is where our disagreement arises).
Note: the reasons of 3 will be explain later after you have made your point.
1- I think love that is real LOVE is genuinely good in essence(itself) and is an end not a means an also is forever.
2- I think love is and must be between two-person to person, person to animals(cats dogs etc) person to material things(cars, houses etc).
3- I believe that love true LOVE can exist between two people at a point in time and at certain point in time can seize to be because it falls short of one of the characteristics of love above *FOREVER*(I guess this is where our disagreement arises).
Note: the reasons of 3 will be explain later after you have made your point.
Aryan says 602 days ago
d same thng happnd 2 me buddy,,one thing i wil say,let him/her go...lyf nevr stops 4 nebody,keep moving in ur lyf,do new things nd stop thnkng abt him/her....i did d sme thng,ive strtd bloggn 2 express myself.....u knw,d person who hs left us wil definitely realize one day.....
A P Geofrey says 592 days ago
But it is not always to stop thinking instantly about a person you once love and cherished so much. Is it?
Odliam says 600 days ago
I am not sure if a debate about love, and what is it, will be of any reward other than an exercise of the mind in different fields, such as philosophy, human relations and entertainment, to name just a few of these fields, and span from serious to light subjects.
In true, it is as if a group of persons of different cultures try to get consensus about religion or politics.
I sustain that love is not what most of us, human beings, think it is. I mean that it is not necessarily between two "something" (persons, animals, things, whatever). It can exist, and in fact, it does, as a container of a reality much more factual than the one we are used to.
If we accept the previous premise, then there is nothing else to state.
If we do not accept the previous premise, then we will be orbiting in different realities and will never find a contact point.
As about scientific and objective thinking, again we are dancing on different legs, as when we talk about Euclidean or Quantum worlds.
Formally, love is understood as companionship, an interchange of good things, hence the need of two sides to be parts, or the way we act. This is not love, this is companionship, an interchange of good things, or the way we act; a way to be 'happy' with another being or thing, but it is not love.
The hard part to accept is that love is pain, abnegation, to give and not receive, to follow desperately the being who is object of this love. This love is forever. Oh, I know, this is a not a likable figure of love. We must reject it and find something that brings... what?:
Happiness? Satisfaction? You see, we like when love take care of "us". And true love is to take care of other beings forgetting what we like and want.
The last paragraph is just a way to show how difficult it would be to speak of love.
As a final note I should say that there is no much love on Earth, that is why we need other meanings for the word.
I guess this note leaves me automatically out of the debate.
In true, it is as if a group of persons of different cultures try to get consensus about religion or politics.
I sustain that love is not what most of us, human beings, think it is. I mean that it is not necessarily between two "something" (persons, animals, things, whatever). It can exist, and in fact, it does, as a container of a reality much more factual than the one we are used to.
If we accept the previous premise, then there is nothing else to state.
If we do not accept the previous premise, then we will be orbiting in different realities and will never find a contact point.
As about scientific and objective thinking, again we are dancing on different legs, as when we talk about Euclidean or Quantum worlds.
Formally, love is understood as companionship, an interchange of good things, hence the need of two sides to be parts, or the way we act. This is not love, this is companionship, an interchange of good things, or the way we act; a way to be 'happy' with another being or thing, but it is not love.
The hard part to accept is that love is pain, abnegation, to give and not receive, to follow desperately the being who is object of this love. This love is forever. Oh, I know, this is a not a likable figure of love. We must reject it and find something that brings... what?:
Happiness? Satisfaction? You see, we like when love take care of "us". And true love is to take care of other beings forgetting what we like and want.
The last paragraph is just a way to show how difficult it would be to speak of love.
As a final note I should say that there is no much love on Earth, that is why we need other meanings for the word.
I guess this note leaves me automatically out of the debate.
A P Geofrey says 600 days ago
Odiam, I am sorry but that note doesn't leave you out of the debate because all of your post is full of contradiction. In fact you just make statements and contradict them later so I don't even get what your stands are.
First you state:
"I sustain that love is not what most of us, human beings, think it is. I mean that it is not necessarily between two "something" (persons, animals, things, whatever). It can exist, and in fact, it does, as a container of a reality much more factual than the one we are used to."
And to that I completely agree with you. But later you contradict yourself by saying:
"love is pain, abnegation, to give and not receive, to follow desperately the being who is object of this love."
Now I would like to ask you. How do you give if not to somebody or something? Or how do you receive if not from somebody or something? And when you even clearly state "to follow desperately the being who is object of this love." Isn't this statement an outright acknowledgment and acceptance of the fact that love if it should be expressed must necessarily an can only be between "Two"?
Now that said if you agree with the above then you are simply making my point which is that:
Love in itself is perfect, Good, and is an End not a means and Forever. But Love expressed (as it is) can in one point in time be and in another seize to be.
First you state:
"I sustain that love is not what most of us, human beings, think it is. I mean that it is not necessarily between two "something" (persons, animals, things, whatever). It can exist, and in fact, it does, as a container of a reality much more factual than the one we are used to."
And to that I completely agree with you. But later you contradict yourself by saying:
"love is pain, abnegation, to give and not receive, to follow desperately the being who is object of this love."
Now I would like to ask you. How do you give if not to somebody or something? Or how do you receive if not from somebody or something? And when you even clearly state "to follow desperately the being who is object of this love." Isn't this statement an outright acknowledgment and acceptance of the fact that love if it should be expressed must necessarily an can only be between "Two"?
Now that said if you agree with the above then you are simply making my point which is that:
Love in itself is perfect, Good, and is an End not a means and Forever. But Love expressed (as it is) can in one point in time be and in another seize to be.
Odliam says 599 days ago
No, A P Geofrey, there are no contradictions!
Do not quote a paragraph, skid along others and read again.
Following the whole post you'll find two clearly defined spheres where things make proper sense.
Anyway, this is a proof of my statement about the exercise of the mind, interesting from some viewpoints, even attractive as a pool of ideas, but with a lack of weight when we approach beliefs.
Thank you for sharing your feelings!
Do not quote a paragraph, skid along others and read again.
Following the whole post you'll find two clearly defined spheres where things make proper sense.
Anyway, this is a proof of my statement about the exercise of the mind, interesting from some viewpoints, even attractive as a pool of ideas, but with a lack of weight when we approach beliefs.
Thank you for sharing your feelings!
Saqibhwak says 586 days ago
i'll not let myself down infront of her...as i've a self respect.. and if she loves me then she 'll come back...if not then then i'll let her go...
Ida Wallace says 586 days ago
I tried holding on when I knew our love had died. I finally found the courage, to just let go. My heart felt better. And by doing so, we are now the best of friends.
A P Geofrey says 585 days ago
Wow! it's amazing how different our opinions and points of views are. It really shows that each person is unique.
-iantie- says 585 days ago
love is not gone...
love would always be there
but the question is, to whom we give the love to?
if the person doesn't love you no more,
letting go, moving on and finding your own 'happy ending' is the best course of life to take ;)
love would always be there
but the question is, to whom we give the love to?
if the person doesn't love you no more,
letting go, moving on and finding your own 'happy ending' is the best course of life to take ;)
Beanizer says 585 days ago
*when the person you love doesn't love you anymore:
You can still continue loving the person if that "loving" action makes you happy, but, NEVER EXPECT THE SAME FROM HIM/HER. If you truly love her, then letting her find her happiness is your joy. Letting go is an act of loving too.
*if you don't love the person:
Tell the truth, don't let him/her believe a false feeling. Every one deserves to be loved truly.
You can still continue loving the person if that "loving" action makes you happy, but, NEVER EXPECT THE SAME FROM HIM/HER. If you truly love her, then letting her find her happiness is your joy. Letting go is an act of loving too.
*if you don't love the person:
Tell the truth, don't let him/her believe a false feeling. Every one deserves to be loved truly.
Snehal says 574 days ago
well. when you find out the person you love doesn't love you anymore ... the best thing to do is .. just accept it and move on.. this situation never makes you less worth or less lovable..it's just.. that person wasn't meant to be with you anymore . later on . you yourself find out and realize .. whatever happened , was good for you too.
Sayyed says 574 days ago
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A P Geofrey says 543 days ago
Hello all I am back again with this love issue. I want to know all that there is to know.
Estephanie says 543 days ago
the hardest but the most sensible - move on.. hard than said but it's a "should"
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