Yarham ∙ 20 weeks ago
love is giving and share whatever something kind
Self sacrifice cost you something that you are NOT normally willing to give up.
Self sacrifice goes beyond the emotional moment in time and SOMETIMES calls for the ultimate price. Saying I love does not prove that I love. Sacrificial Actions is the voice of love. That is what love is to me.
I know I'm in love because I want to do my best to give that person the world. I know I'm being loved back, because they try to give me their world. When it happens simultaneously, its one of the most wondrous things to be witnessed.
So does everyone think that there is a thin line between lust and love? Because when you lust after someone, your in love with what they can offer in the bedroom. Here's the tricky part: What happens if outside of the bedroom, you actually get along with that person? You can actually have a conversation with that person and laugh with them; yet the dominance of that relationship is sex. How do you classify that? Because technically, if your in lust with someone, you have no interest in what they think and how they feel; you two just have sex. So where does lust stop and love begin?
I think that this is your yin and yang concept. lol
I think first of all we would have to define what IS love and what IS lust .
if I say I love someone then ( in my opinion ) I would spend my life with that person whether sex was involved or not. For example: what if my lady said all of a sudden that she has no desires of sex because of a sickness or because of her age, would I then leave her ? if so then there never was any love. but I say that should that ever happen to me I will NOT leave her because she completes me , sex or not and without her I would not be able to function the way I can now. I will always make love to her heart NOT just to her body. Anything else is just lust. BUT THAT'S JUST MY OPINION
Oh my goodness Teddy. If I were not married already - and I were to know you outside of bloggers - I think I would have to propose to you. . .
Is that ying and yang or yin and yang, can't remember lol . anyways , I think there is a wide gap between lust and love.
so much so that it would be an insult to associate love with lust.
@ Teddy Its Yin and Yang..lol For the longest I thought it was Ying also...I still write ying at times. lol Well anyways, I can see there being a wide gap but since there is a wide gap, how do people confuse the two? I believe everything has a thin line between it. That would suck to leave someone after a long amount of years because the sex falls off; yet I've seen this happen amongst some married couples for whatever reason....not even married but also long-term relationships. There is thin line between happiness and sadness...Who cares to disagree?
I can see what your saying but if we turn it around then what we see is that we will only say we love someone only as long as we can screw them. crudely put but that's when you can see it is not love but lust for that ability to self satisfaction. Thereby saying, if I can't screw you, then I don't want you ? I see love as being something that goes way beyond this self fulfilling need to fulfilling the need of another BEYOND the invasion of ones body of another. Though that is something most enjoy. The definition of lust is:
Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body. The lust can take any form such as the lust for knowledge, the lust for sex or the lust for power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for food as distinct from the need for food. Lust is a powerful psychological force producing intense wanting for an object, or circumstance fulfilling the emotion. Many religions separate the definition of passion and lust by further categorizing lust as type of passion for something that does not belong to oneself.
Not once did I see lust in conjunction with love. so yes, there is a definite separation, but what do I know as a sixth grader.
LOL! Well put...lust is an interesting topic. I can clearly see the line between the two...being engaged and hopefully some day married, I can see the difference from past relationships to this one. At the time, I couldn't see it. In past relationships, I thought I loved the girl and vice versa, in reality it was just a wanting for the body. Normally, the girl would probably fall out of lust with me before I did so it left me kind of....confused? I guess because I thought that was love; little did I know, it was the love for lust. lol So my question to everybody, How many people actually love lust? or how many people have had relationships they thought was love but in reality, they just loved lust? It can be tricky but one has to sit down ad really think about it.
I can say this in ALL CERTAINTY...... I've lusted far more than loved. But when I fell in love, it was for real and only once. thought I was in love a few times but THIS ONE,,,, WOWWW what a difference. very good topics LA Green.
Love is the first butterfly every spring. You never know when it's going to appear, what it's going to look like, or how long it will dance on the wild flowers...but you know that your life is better because you were in it's presence.
@Heart shaped Rain That was short yet to the point. I like it. =) But I have a question for you and anyone who else who wants to answer; its an open question. Is it okay for one to lust after there husband, wife, or fiance? Teddy already addressed this above. Lust- intense sexual desire or appetite. Uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite, a passionate or overmastering desire or craving. These are the definitions of Lust. Love- a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. A feeling or warm personal attachment or deep affection. Sexual passion or desire. The definition of love found in the dictionary. Both found in the dictionary. Actually now this becomes a two part question, Are the two linked? Lust is suppose to be a sin YET, they share similar emotions; I'm religious; but I still wonder, how many people are aware of the difference? What is the difference? Because of as of now, they appear to be one in the same; sort of speak.
@Heart Shaped Rain - you took the words right out of my mouth. Actually, the way you said it is much more beautiful. I was going to use a different comparison. kudos.
It like... u think about him and everything seems meaningful. u wud do any of the silliest thing to make him smile, beyond lust, but u see yourself only wid dat one person whenever u feel cozy.. its about waiting to happen..,its about care.. its about giving ur life.. spending it wid somebody worth!! :)
@Princess Blog- That's a good response. I believe what you said was right on the money. Love is deeper then lust that I will admit yet, there's so many people out there who are in love with lust. Funny, so far everyone who has responded on this post has had a different definition to love; including the dictionary. So I guess love is the in the heart of the person....BUT the question that still lurks around...how can one confuse lust and love yet there completely different? There is no wrong answer...well maybe far out answers but those are excepted as well. The two are so different yet somehow, the two are confused on a daily; which in turn can lead to marriage, long term relationships, etc.